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Kill 'em with kindness


I was blocked by a billionaire this week. 

That’s actually insane to say considering the woman has nearly 400 million global followers. 

That’s right – THE it-girl, lip-kit, makeup mogul blocked me. 


I made a TikTok on my personal account over the weekend, correlating the drama of a pop celebrity scenario to a catchy little country tune... To be honest, if you DON’T know what I’m talking about… I’m jealous.

These days, the more “gossip” I know about pop culture, the less intelligent I feel. 

However, this situation grasped my attention because of the “mean girl” energy behind it. These women are in their late twenties, early thirties… but they seem stuck on child-like jealousy. 

My theory is that some celebrities are so detached from reality that their main personality comes from online profiles and the latest trend in public perception. Girls… hear me, GIRLS– that are seemingly “stuck in a high school mentality” are unable to grow past the naturally occurring snide remarks and hateful behaviors because they want to feel young. Especially famous folks that have that mentality.

Of course, not all high school girls are mean. I have always been treated with respect by the majority of my former female classmates. There’s just always those few girls that can’t cheer for someone else’s wins. They can’t give others their flowers. And they can’t even keep their fingers off their keyboards, even when they know what they’re saying or doing is not nice.

These select girls, and boys, who don’t practice common respect and courtesy were conditioned to do so. They’ve never been righted when they’ve behaved wrongly. They’ve only been modeled after and enabled by their parents. 

Which brings me to my next theory… mean girls (and boys) are made by mean parents. As a former high school student, I was never mean. To anyone. I was have always striven to be respectful and kind to people, for I do not know their journeys in life. However, when I was in elementary school through my senior year at MHS, there was always one group of girls (and boys!) who were just flat out mean. 

They clique’d, they wouldn’t talk to anyone outside of their “group,” they claimed spots in the hallways, made exclusive apparel for school events and came up with horrendous nicknames for people who were nothing but kind to them. 

I believe they were like this because the behavior was encouraged and modeled to them by mean parents. 

As the high school kid that didn’t fit into any groups, I often bounced around and was friends with everyone… attended birthday parties and events at the homes of kids from nearly every clique.

I stopped trying to be “friends” with everyone after the mother of a mean girl commented on my body as a 16 year old girl during a sleepover I never felt truly comfortable being at in the first place. What she said, where she said it and the people that heard still rings clearly in my mind to this day. 

Mean kids often grow into mean adults. Celebrity or not. They thrive on excluding others, making sideways comments, clicking with other mean adults and stirring the pot.

My bet would be that the mother of the mean girls who felt triggered enough to block my account is managing the entire situation. She’s probably reaffirmed the toxic behavior and probably got as much enjoyment as her daughter and friend who made the posts. 

But this behavior isn’t just seen in Hollywood. It’s everywhere. In every community. Every school. Every algorithm. 

It really makes you stop to think about how silly our society has gotten when it comes to social media.

One little TikTok video had enough of a weight to make a woman with 380 million followers block me. ME. Rather than ever commenting on the situation without gaslighting millions of people into thinking it was a pointless, innocent post… it’ll be ignored after they lay low for a few weeks and money will be thrown towards big media outlets to move past the situation, never to be revisited until a streaming service ultimately creates a documentary touching on the subject years down the road. 

The woman who was on the receiving end of the hateful actions will continue to “kill them with kindness” and will try to reduce the ripple because that’s the type of woman she is – a good woman.

It just sucks that the mean girl energy will remain and nothing will ultimately change. 

But change CAN happen in your home. You can be a kind parent. A loving example. A light to the people who need to see it the most – your children.

There has been so much growth in the way we empathize with one another in the last several decades, which could be attributed to online platforms and the broader sharing of information and life experiences. But I really think it starts at home. 

Each of our walks through life have the capability to make a difference in the overall goodness of the world. Each moment in real life and each post or comment we share to our social networks. The most important thing we can do is model kindness. Contribute to the good. Love one another. 




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